The Sound of Silence

Don't waste words on people that deserve your silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing.

Instinct & Expectation

1) When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

2) Expect the unexpected. Things rarely work the way you want.

Tragic Flaw

Current mood:

"The more things change, the more they stay the same. 

I’m not sure who the first person was who said that. Probably Shakespeare. Or maybe Sting. But at the moment, it’s the sentence that best explains my tragic flaw: my inability to change. 

I don’t think I’m alone in this. The more I get to know other people, the more I realize it’s kind of everyone’s flaw. Staying exactly the same for as long as possible, standing perfectly still… It feels safer somehow. And if you are suffering, at least the pain is familiar. Because if you took that leap of faith, went outside the box, did something unexpected… Who knows what other pain might be out there, waiting for you. Chances are it could be worse.

So you maintain the status quo. Choose the road already traveled. And it doesn’t seem that bad. Not as far as flaws go. You’re not a drug addict. You’re not killing anyone… Except maybe yourself a little. 

When we finally do change, I don’t think it happens like an earthquake or an explosion, where all of a sudden we’re like this different person. I think it’s smaller than that. The kind of thing most people wouldn’t even notice unless they looked at us really close. Which, thank God, they never do. 

But you notice it. Inside you that change feels like a world of difference. And you hope this is it. This is the person you get to be forever… that you’ll never have to change again."

~Author Unknown

The Bitter Battle

I once read two reasons that prevent us from happiness are by:

a) living in the past and
b) comparing ourselves to others.

While this constant battle often brews a bitter beast, I've recently realized a third bears equal importance/reminding:

The world is full of selfish people. Phony people. Rude people.

However...

Despite the dismal reality, don't lose yourself or your love towards it.

El Sol

There's a surge of confidence, security, and eventual peace when you stop worrying what others are doing or think of you.

The Shape of Things

The way things look and the way things are, are very different.

Daily Reminder

Don't forget to fall in love with yourself first.

A Fresh Feeling

There's a new-found freedom the day you stop expecting anything of others.

Today is that day.

Viva La Vida

There's nothing you can do about the things you have to do without.

On Rejection

"You don't need someone else's approval or affection in order to be good enough. Whenever someone rejects, abandons, or judges you, it isn't actually about you. It is about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don't have to internalize that. Your worth is not contingent upon other people's acceptance of you--it's something inherent."~Author Unknown

In the End

Charlotte: "Does it get easier?"

Harris: "Yes, it gets easier."

Harris: "The more you know who you are, and what you want, the less you let things upset you."

Go Your Own Way

"I don't condemn you for wanting somebody to love. I guess I just reject the notion that your life is empty without a man."~Ally McBeal

Although I've never been a AM fan, apparently Ally was onto something. Unfortunately, only until the age of 29 did I realize that with this in mind, the following should not be why you enter into a romantic relationship: 

Self-Validation (a.k.a. only until someone loves me will I feel worthwhile both as a man/woman and human being)
Self "Saving" (a.k.a. I need someone to fix me) 

Time Suck (a.k.a  I have no life and need someone to make theirs mine)

Being said, establish yourself, and the rest will follow.

On the Upswing

The ability to fully forgive others starts with the ability to fully forgive yourself.

The Trick is to Keep Breathing

Like to think that although exceptionally rare--especially in the 21st century--real love still exists. And although I used to believe that you weren't someone until someone loved you (for what seems the larger part of my life), have finally learned what's ultimately important is the love and respect for yourself.

Outside of that it's best to take things slow, remain realistic, and hopeful. Nothing great is made in haste.

And put your best self forward. Everything else is typically related to the other person, so let it go.

And remember to laugh hard.

Never stop laughing.